Before I begin, let me start by saying, everything said here is my own given opinion, which we all have a right to!
Relationships of now a days are honestly all twisted up, and yes I am a victim and imposer of it...why because I am human like the rest of you, and society is human like I...we live and we learn....but sometimes we dont!!
I define *courting (courtship) as successful practice of learning who the "other" person truly is, their faults, loves, dislikes etc. and taking proper time to find out if the two of you are compatible in a relationship like situation, aiming for solid friendship that would hold up through possible marraige. During courtship the two people are more on a spiritual level with each other and lack obsessive lust...intimacy is avoided and does not come into play until both say to themselves..."I can be committed to him/her."
*Dating is less complex and much easier to do, because it involves our many senses and fulfilling them, at times passionately other times without mere thought. Dating is a modern day game, back and forth, push and pull, no and maybes, holding hands and kissing, having sex with each other and fantasizing about others. Dating does not take as much work and time as courting. It is a outwordly approach to a relationship. One may ask themselves "am i happy with my sex life?" "why would I ever be stuck on one girl...she is so much hotter" or "he makes more money; of course he can take care of me". I agree, he probably can take care of your wants...but not always your needs.
Dating is going to a restaurant, and making sure you presented yourself well that night and that she was not turned off by anything. Dating is first putting up a front [see my post below on ppl not being their real selves in begining of relationship] in hopes that they will want to see you again, become close enough for the other person to one day (some cases 5 days later) to get that good good)....and then from there see where it goes.
Courting is of course vice-versa. It is feeling the individual out slowly while going about your lifes duties, learning about them, enjoying their presence, communicate, decide to commit then work on pleasing each other for that good good!!!! :)
Too many people like to lump the both into one.....not in my book. Today 2009, most females may feel like a man is courting her, and if they would sit down and truly think about it, they'd be in for a rude awakening.
As they say, actions speak louder than words...it's easy to say "Love" but much harder to prove it. PAY ATTENTION men and women...dating is not the best move to make, and if you're one of those individuals who cannot do without being alone, it will be a tough situation and probably the one whom is most confused at this point!
what is your voice on this topic?
do you see a difference or are they the same thing?
courting or dating...which is beter?
speak truuth...
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Courtship; While the date is fairly casual in most European-influenced cultures, in some traditional societies, courtship is a highly structured activity, with very specific formal rules.
In some societies, the parents or community propose potential partners, and then allow limited dating to determine whether the parties are suited. In Japan, there is a type of courtship called Omiai.
Parents will hire a matchmaker to provide pictures and résumés of potential mates, and if the couple agrees, there will be a formal meeting with the matchmaker and often parents in attendance. The matchmaker and parents will often exert pressure on the couple to decide whether they want to marry or not after a few dates.
In more closed societies, courtship is virtually eliminated altogether by the practice of arranged marriages, where partners are chosen for young people, typically by their parents. Forbidding experimental and serial courtship and sanctioning only arranged matches is partly a means of guarding the chastity of young people and partly a matter of furthering family interests, which in such cultures may be considered more important than individual romantic preferences.
Over recent decades though, the concept of arranged marriage has changed or simply been mixed with other forms of dating, including Eastern and Indian ones; potential couples have the opportunity to meet and date each other before one decides on whether to continue the relationship or not.
Modern Dating: In earlier centuries, young adults were expected to court with the intention of finding a marriage partner, rather than for social reasons. However, by the Jazz Age of the 1920s, dating for fun was becoming an expectation, and by the 1930s, it was assumed that any popular young person would have lots of dates. This form of dating, though, was usually more chaste than is seen today, since pre-marital sex was not considered the norm.
After the sexual revolution of the 1960s and 1970s, this "old-fashioned" form of dating waned in popularity. Couples became more likely to "hook up" or "hang out" with large groups than to go on an old-fashioned date, and frequently went from "hanging out" to an exclusive relationship without engaging in what their parents or grandparents might have called dating.
In recent years, a number of college newspapers have featured editorials where students decry the lack of "dating" on their campuses. This may be a result of a highly-publicized 2001 study and campaign sponsored by the conservative American women's group Independent Women's Forum, which promotes "traditional" dating.
Also, in recent years traditional dating has evolved and taken on the metamorphic properties necessary to sustain itself in today's world. This can be seen in the rise in internet dating, speed dating or gradual exclusivity dating (a.k.a. slow dating). Some theorize that courtship as it was known to prior generations has seen its last days and the next closest thing is gradual exclusivity, where the partners respect and value each others individual lives but still maintain the ultimate goal of being together even if time or space does not permit it now.
Those who find their dating skills lacking may hire dating coaches. While traditional dating advice was given from ancient times on, the Internet made it possible for individuals (mostly men, as their social role in Western cultures requires more proactivity) to share their experience worldwide and form the seduction community.
so courting and dating are exchangeable!
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